Oxytocin Playlist

I strongly recommend making a good, calming, and emotive playlist to get you through rough patches of pregnancy and the beginning of labour itself.

Even if you don’t fancy any of the suggestions below, definitely compile your own playlist and listen to it often. The more you listen to it, the more your body will react to it in the desired way (relaxed and getting all zen), and it can also be a sweet source of that delicious oxytocin we all keep going on about.

Through both of my pregnancies I struggled with horrendous acid reflux all the way through – at least, I think that’s what it was, although they both came out as bald as Patrick Stewart. So, taking some time to have a Stacey Solomon worthy bath and listening to my playlist, really helped me get all my tensions and emotions out at the end of the day. I would also stick my playlist on during those insomnia-filled nights; some beautiful songs accompanied by a lavender diffuser can work wonders.

My chosen songs really got my oxytocin swirling while I was in labour. At one point my husband and I were swaying and singing along to, ‘Into My Arms’ by Nick Cave and then everything kicked off.

If you are looking for songs to rev you up and inspire you to push, this will not be the playlist for you – but I’ll be compiling another list for the pushing phase soon. These songs are ones that will hopefully make your heart soar, your eyes close and your mind calm:

Starlings – Elbow “You are the only thing in any room you’re ever in.”

I picked a few songs that made me think of my husband. This is our ultimate love song. Take a listen to the lyrics and sink into the romance of it.

Into My Arms – Nick Cave and The Bad Seeds “Into my arms, oh Lord. Into my arms.”

Thinking about that baby being placed into your arms for the first time is a powerful image and something that will keep your spirits up on the tough days.

Beautiful Boy – John Lennon “Close your eyes, have no fear, the monsters gone, he’s on the run and your daddy’s here.”

I sing this one all the time to my boys if they’re ever in need of a little extra love. It was written by John Lennon, for his son, Sean.

Hearts and Bones – Paul Simon “You take two bodies, and you twirl them into one, their hearts and their bones, and they won’t come undone.”

When pregnant, you have two hearts, and it feels that way. This song always reminded me of how close I was to my baby when he was inside of me.

The Promise – Tracy Chapman “In a place that’s warm and dark. In a place where I can feel the beating of your heart.”

This song made me think about both my baby and my husband. I love how you can interpret songs however you like. I liked thinking about how my baby and I were on a journey and soon we would be together. Pregnancy was also a time where my husband and I were in survival mode. It was lockdown, we had our toddler, I was finding pregnancy difficult and we were both working from home. We didn’t have much energy or love left to give at the end of the day, so it felt like we were on a journey to find each other again.

Kooks – David Bowie “We bought a lot of things to keep your warm and dry and a funny old crib on which the paint won’t dry.

This song would make me smile. It’s such happy little ditty where it makes you feel proud to be a bit of a kook and to have a kooky kind of family. I love the part where he sings, “Don’t pick fights with the bullies or the cads, cuz I’m not much cop at punching other people’s dads.”

Orange Sky – Alexi Murdoch “That’s when I miss you, you who are my home.”

This is a song about family love, mainly siblings, and it gets me every time. Whilst pregnant I would imagine what my boys would be like as men and how they would look out for each other in the big world. It also got me all emotional about my own siblings and how much I freaking love them.

Baby – Donnie and Joe Emerson “Ooh baby”

This is just a real mood song. Super sexy.

Elegy – Leif Vollebekk “I want to find out what that smile on your face meant…”

Another real mood-setter. These sounds have cured many a night time headache.

Here For You – Neil Young “In the spring, protective arms surrounding you.”

A great song about protecting your little ones and letting them go to find their own way, whilst always being there… just in case they need you.

Simply the Best – Noah Reid In your heart I see the start of every night and every day”

Just. All. The. Feels.

Higher Love – James Vincent McMorrow “Let me feel the love come over me, let me feel how strong it can be.”

This line reminds me of that mad feeling of overwhelming love that you get when you hold your children, or look at them, or see them doing something amazing. Some parents feel it the first time they hold their babies, some don’t, but eventually that wave of intensity surrounds you and there’s nothing better.

Picture You – Mumford and Sons “And in your I have no doubt, when the chaos calls me out and it feels like there is nothing I can do… I’ll picture you.”

Imaging that little face kept me going.

Real Love – The Beatles “All my little plans and schemes, lost like some forgotten dream, seems like all I really was doing, was waiting for you.”

It sometimes does feel like, we are waiting all of our lives to meet these little humans and nothing else matters. Those 9 long months all end in meeting your truest love.

Let me know if you add any of these recommendations to your playlist and let me know what you love about them. If you have any other songs that would suit this playlist drop them in the comments.

Published by RaisingBoys

I’m Kelly. I’m 34 and I am a primary school teacher (when I’m not mumming). I live in a thin, tall house with my thinnish, quite tall husband and two beautiful boys. I love writing, and am trying to keep it up so I can keep a piece of me.

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