You might need a break. Not just from the relentless jobs, but also from everyday life. A little time away can give you time to breathe, time to check in with yourself, and time to miss your every day.
When one starts crying, the other joins in. Either because it’s so upsetting watching your sibling cry, or because they know that if they cry too, they get in on that sweet attention. If they’re both pooing and crying, just give up. Call in reinforcements.